"You can't stop the waves but you can learn how to surf." 

Jon Kabat Zinn


I help people learn how to surf the waves of divorce, post-divorce transition and career change more mindfully and confidently 


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10 Steps to a More Mindful Divorce

to Limit Costs and Conflict



  • Get clear on the process and your best options
  • Avoid burning out friends and family
  • Save money 
  • Be organized and prepared
  • Make decisions that are informed and aligned with your values
  • Be the best parent you can be during a challenging time
  • Be more confident and build resilience
  • Look ahead with hope and purpose 





  • Be confident about your strengths 
  • Avoid common mistakes that keep you stuck 
  • Save time and overcome self doubt
  • Uncover your blind spots
  • Get clear on what purposeful work is for you
  • Be the best version of yourself during a significant challenge
  • Make decisions that align with your values
  • Have support and accountability with tasks
  • Gain certainty that you're on the right path


  • Create closure and move on
  • Trust yourself so you can trust others again
  • Increase your confidence and self-esteem
  • Develop healthy relationship skills
  • Create better habits for your mind and body
  • Find hope and joy in dating
  • Know you enough, just as you are
  • Create a legacy of healthy, secure relationships



Details to Know About Coaching:

  • Action-based to help you get unstuck, shift and grow 
  • Offers problem solving and direction-finding with accountability 
  • Confidential and customized 
  • Can be therapeutic  but it's different than therapy
  • Pairs well with therapy 

Meet Heather

Heather Cary has spent the last 25 years bringing out the strengths and confidence in her students and clients. 

A CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and CDC Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach®, Heather specializes  in helping people overcome divorce with more clarity and confidence and use one of life’s biggest challenges to improve the quality of their life, career and relationships. 

Heather is trained in mediation, and she serves on several panels with other divorce professionals to offer low-cost, high-impact resources to her community. 

She coaches with a unique blend of humor, a growth mindset, a focus on strengths and progress coupled with a firm kick in the pants to get out of overwhelm and into action. 

Her clients do not lack for generous support or resources.


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