Divorce First Steps - When You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Divorce First Steps - When You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

Embarking on divorce can feel like stepping into the unknown. Where do you start? What should you prioritize? Before diving into legal paperwork, take a moment to reflect, gather information, and build a support system. From understanding your financial situation to deciding whether mediation is right for you, these first steps will help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

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Why You Need an Exit Strategy Before You Say Divorce
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Why You Need an Exit Strategy Before You Say Divorce

An exit strategy is all about the steps you can take in advance to set yourself up for a better divorce process. 

  • Minimize the impact to your children

  • Feel confident that the settlement you're agreeing to is fair

  • Keep costs down

  • Get through the process without losing your mind 

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Spousal Support - What You Need to Know
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Spousal Support - What You Need to Know

Understanding Spousal Support: What Really Matters

Divorce is already complex, and when spousal support enters the equation, emotions can run high. Many people worry—will I receive enough support to rebuild? Or, will I end up paying more than I can afford?

Spousal support, also known as alimony, isn’t a one-size-fits-all formula. Courts consider factors like the length of the marriage, each spouse’s financial situation, and the ability to earn post-divorce. The goal? To create financial fairness while allowing both individuals to move forward.

💡 Key Takeaway: Preparation is everything. Whether you’re seeking support or expected to pay it, understanding how the system works can help you negotiate better terms.

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Is Wanting a Divorce Selfish?
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Is Wanting a Divorce Selfish?

Am I being selfish?" It’s a question I hear often from clients struggling with the decision to end their marriage. The truth? Wanting a divorce isn’t inherently selfish—it’s a recognition that something isn’t working. The key is how you navigate the process. Divorce can be handled with integrity, respect, and care for everyone involved. If you’re questioning your decision, let’s talk about what it really means to prioritize your well-being without guilt.

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The Right (and Wrong) Way to Hire a Divorce Attorney
Heather Cary Heather Cary

The Right (and Wrong) Way to Hire a Divorce Attorney

Learn the right way to hire a divorce attorney to save money, save time, limit stress and have confidence in your representation. Get a list of sample questions to use to interview and select the RIGHT divorce attorney for your situation.

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Custody & Parenting Time Checklist for Mediation
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Custody & Parenting Time Checklist for Mediation

Deciding custody and parenting time is one of the most emotional aspects of divorce. Mediation offers a way to create agreements that work for both parents and, most importantly, for the kids. But preparation is key. This checklist will help you enter mediation with clarity, ensuring you cover everything from schedules to decision-making responsibilities.

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How to Make Divorce Decisions with Confidence
Heather Cary Heather Cary

How to Make Divorce Decisions with Confidence

Divorce decisions aren’t just about legal outcomes—they’re about what truly matters to you. Instead of focusing on rigid positions, identifying your deeper interests allows for more flexible and creative solutions. Whether it’s deciding what to do with the marital home or structuring parenting time, shifting your mindset can lead to better negotiations and outcomes.

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Money & Divorce - First 5 Things to Know
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Money & Divorce - First 5 Things to Know

Money is one of the biggest stressors in divorce, but understanding the financial process can help you feel more in control. From knowing how assets are divided to preparing for financial disclosure, these five essential tips will help you navigate divorce with confidence and financial clarity.

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How to Prepare for Divorce - Top 5 Tips
Heather Cary Heather Cary

How to Prepare for Divorce - Top 5 Tips

Divorce is overwhelming, but preparation makes all the difference. From understanding your budget to gathering financial documents, these five steps will help you enter the process with clarity and control—saving you time, money, and stress.

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The Truth About Parallel-Parenting
Heather Cary Heather Cary

The Truth About Parallel-Parenting

Not every divorced couple can co-parent cooperatively, and that’s okay. Parallel parenting allows parents to minimize interaction while still being actively involved in their children’s lives. Whether you’re dealing with high conflict or simply need boundaries, understanding the benefits of parallel parenting can help you make the best choice for your family.

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Think You Can’t Mediate? Think Again.
Heather Cary Heather Cary

Think You Can’t Mediate? Think Again.

"Mediation won’t work—I’m dealing with a narcissist." Sound familiar? Many people assume court is the only option when conflict is high, but mediation can actually reduce costs, de-escalate tension, and lead to better compliance with agreements. Before ruling it out, consider how mediation might work for your situation.

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How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce.
Heather Cary Heather Cary

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce.

Telling your spouse you want a divorce is one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever have. But how you approach it can set the tone for the entire process. Avoid blame, acknowledge common ground, and clearly state your intentions for a peaceful separation. Here’s how to do it with confidence.

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